I'm feeling some frustration with a change that's going on in my world. I am in transition mode; switching jobs, which is a totally new experience with me. I'm trying to pinpoint exactly what the icky feeling is that I'm trying to hard to shake off but I can't. Last week, it was the icky second interview at the place that eventually hired me, but today I realized that it's the strange things my boss said to me which sort of linger in the air and are hovering around me. And the ickiest part is, that even though I kind of stood up for myself, I could've done it a lot more, which sort of proves her whole point. Why do I have to be so damned diplomatic all the time? I'm not naturally aggressive when it comes to dealing with people, because frankly, that's not how I like to be dealt with. Do unto others, etc...
I could continue to feel this way, which I probably will, until I leave. The stress of wrapping up, of knowing I'm finally leaving Awkward Boss Land, of planning a national event, it's all overwhelming. I'm excited but also petrified of starting at a new place where I know no one and feel like I will know nothing. But then thank God the Juanly voice creeps into my head. I have to reassure myself that I was hired for a reason, that I was deemed capable, etc. etc. etc.
...So I simply must have confidence.
I suppose what bothers me most in all of this is that things go unsaid. People continue to be poor managers, and others, like myself, continue to let people be bad managers because they are timid and constantly unsure of themselves until someone really pushes their buttons and makes them think or even GASP! act. Even though our society so often preaches confidence, I feel that very few people really have it. I guess confidence is all outward then, because I seldom truly feel it from within. The only reassurance I've gotten that I'm not a complete moron in the past 2 years is being in grad school. If it weren't for that, I think confidence would not even be a part of my vocabulary.
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GOOD THINGS YOU SAID.
Anxiety is never rooted in reality; that's the whole problem; it's just a series of thoughts and negative scenarios which repeat in your head. It's hard for someone who is easily made nervous to stop feeling that way, regardless of whether they understand the actual consequences of their situation.
I do think, and this is a weird thing to say, that some people (like me) like to psych themselves out, and run on anxiety or nervous energy to get things done in otherwise normal situations. The downside to this is that 1) you look like a crazy person sometimes, and 2) you can make yourself sick.
FUN!
Anyway the things you said are important to internalize. I've learned many lessons about personal integrity and human interaction just from working in a stupid office.
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